Should I Be Present In My Child’s Swim Lesson?

As a parent, it’s natural to feel anxious about your child’s first swim lesson.

The thought of leaving them alone with a new instructor can be daunting, and you may worry that they’ll feel abandoned. However, it’s important to remember that being present during your child’s swim lesson can actually hinder their progress.

In many cases, children experience separation anxiety when introduced to new environments, especially water. They may cry, scream, or cling to you for dear life. While it’s understandable to want to comfort your child, your presence can reinforce their anxiety and make it harder for them to focus on learning how to swim.

So, what can you do?

Out of sight, out of mind

Believe it or not, the moment you step out of sight, they are more likely to explore and engage with the water if they feel confident and independent. They will also settle down and focus on the lesson and to their instructor. This is because they no longer have the option of running back to their comfort zone – you.

In my experience over the years, once the parent leaves and is out of sight, kids will forget and end up having a lot of fun!

Leave the Pool, Leave the Worry

The best thing you can do for your child during their swim lesson is to leave the pool area altogether. Trust the instructor to do their job and provide the necessary guidance and support. This may seem counterintuitive, but your absence will encourage your child to step outside their comfort zone and focus on the skills they need to learn to swim safely.

If you’re unable to leave the pool entirely, try sitting on the opposite side, out of your child’s sight. This may provide them with a sense of security without your constant presence.

Separation Anxiety: Normal and Manageable

It’s important to remember that separation anxiety is a common and normal response for children, especially when they’re facing new experiences. Learning to swim can be a challenging and anxiety-provoking task for many kids. However, with the right support and encouragement, they can overcome their fears and develop the confidence to enjoy the water.

Resources for Dealing with Separation Anxiety

If you’re concerned about your child’s separation anxiety, there are plenty of resources available to help you manage it. The article “How to Deal with Separation Anxiety in Children” from Kids Health provides valuable insights into the causes of separation anxiety and effective techniques to address it.

Jumpstart your child’s swim journey with these four simple at-home swim techniques